Most of us were taught math, science, and history in school, but not how to navigate tough conversations when emotions are high. We’re expected to just “get along,” without ever being given the tools to handle conflict with compassion and clarity. Disagreements happen. Feelings get hurt. Tempers flare. And without a framework, these moments often lead to disconnection instead of growth.

This class is about changing that.

We won’t sugarcoat it - this is hard work. There are no quick fixes for life’s complex relationship dynamics. In this class, we’ll explore:
- What a shared mindset agreement looks like, and why it matters
- How to set clear rules of engagement (and actually stick to them)
- A practical, respectful framework for navigating conflict—especially in hierarchical relationships

Even nations have the Geneva Convention… why not your relationship? 

A fiery redhead and an energetic, mischievous equine, Pony Girl Ginger is a certified and ribboned stubborn pony. In BDSM for 20 years Ginger- also known as slave Lexi- is active in the Leather, M/s, and kink circles. A strategic Director of Technical Program Management by day with over a decade in the tech ecosystem, Lexi knows a thing or two about powerful slaves. She is the webslave for The Leather Quilt and My Leather Life, has been a leather contest judge, and can be found facilitating mixers at conventions in addition to teaching nationwide in-person and virtually. She is the owner of The Manège Virtual Academy for Pony Play and producer for the annual PONY CON. Lexi enjoys leatherworking and her favorite piece to date was making her Master his cover. Lexi is the proudly-owned slave of Master Ray, and devoted to serving both him and their leather values.

SADE is a not-for-profit kink and BDSM education initiative. We are committed to providing an inclusive, accessible, safe, and consent-focused education for everyone interested in power exchange and authority transfer dynamics. We vet all of our instructors for credibility and ethical standards, and support the community at large by donating proceeds to charity.

At SADE, we believe a quality education should be accessible by all. If you need a scholarship ticket, please email director.sade@gmail.com

If you are able to pay it forward and donate a larger amount, it is greatly appreciated and helps us continue to keep our classes available to everyone.

You're Doing It Wrong: Arguments in Hierarchical Relationships